Introduction

Marriage is a union that demands not just love but also respect, understanding, and a spirit of cooperation. In this sacred partnership, the values of humility and submission play pivotal roles in fostering a peaceful and loving home. The message, “If your pride as a woman will prevent you from submitting yourself to a man, then forget about marriage. No man wants to marry a stubborn and arrogant woman that lacks home training,” though stark, underscores the significance of humility and the willingness to compromise in marriage. However, it is important to understand the deeper meaning and context of submission within a marriage, free from misconceptions or stereotypes.

Understanding Submission in Marriage

Submission, in the context of marriage, does not imply inferiority or loss of identity. Rather, it is an act of mutual respect where both partners recognize their roles in making the marriage work. For a marriage to thrive, both the husband and wife must embrace humility, set aside excessive pride, and be willing to serve each other in love. The idea that a woman must submit to her husband should be balanced with the understanding that a husband must also love, respect, and cherish his wife.

The Consequences of Pride and Arrogance

Pride and arrogance are detrimental to any relationship, but they are particularly destructive in marriage. A marriage where one partner, especially the wife, is seen as stubborn or arrogant, often faces unnecessary conflicts and strife. This behavior can be perceived as a lack of respect, which erodes the foundation of the relationship. It is essential for women to be aware that while personal dignity and self-respect are important, excessive pride can create barriers that prevent genuine connection and cooperation in the marriage.

The Importance of Home Training

Home training refers to the foundational values and behaviors instilled in an individual from a young age, often by their parents or guardians. For women, home training includes learning how to manage a household, interact respectfully with others, and maintain a peaceful environment. A woman who embraces the values of humility and service learned from home is more likely to foster a harmonious marriage.

Balancing Strength and Submission

It is crucial to clarify that submission does not mean weakness. A strong woman can be submissive without compromising her strength or values. True submission comes from a place of love and respect, not fear or coercion. A strong, humble woman knows how to balance her strength with the ability to submit in love, which, in turn, brings out the best in her partner.

Conclusion

Marriage is not for the proud or the arrogant; it is for those who understand the beauty of humility and submission. A successful marriage is built on mutual respect, love, and the willingness to put the needs of the other before one’s own. Therefore, if a woman’s pride prevents her from embracing the role of a supportive partner, marriage may indeed not be the right path for her. However, if she can balance her dignity with humility and learn the art of loving submission, she will not only build a strong marriage but also create a lasting legacy of love and harmony in her home.

©️James Ola Emiola-Dakobiri FIIM,
Founder and Chairman,
Suicide Prevention and Depression Support Foundation
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☎️773-344-6313.

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