Everybody looks okay until you have a deep conversation with them. It is then you realize that we are part of a generation struggling to survive behind smiling faces and carefully curated pictures. Beneath the surface, people are enduring immense pain in silence, fighting battles you may never see.

This world has taught us to wear masks—to hide our true selves behind forced laughter, upbeat statuses, and seemingly perfect lives. It is easy to fall for the illusion that everyone is doing fine. We scroll through pictures, see smiles, and assume joy. We hear someone say, “I’m good,” and accept it without question. Yet, deep within, hearts are often shattered, and souls are crying for hope.

We must learn to understand this truth: no one is immune to struggles. Everyone carries burdens—some are visible, but many are hidden deep within. In a world that glorifies perfection, people often bear their pain alone, believing they must mask their true selves to fit in or to avoid judgment.

Therefore, let us not be swift to judge. Let us mind our words, for we know not what battle the next person is facing. A single careless comment can deepen the wounds we know nothing of, while a simple, thoughtful gesture can be the light that pulls someone out of the darkness.

Be a beacon of kindness. Show more love, and reduce the hate. Reach out in the smallest way you can—sometimes, a genuine “How are you really doing?” or just a comforting presence can make all the difference. Do not ignore those who seem to be in their lowest state; you never know how much impact a word of advice, a moment of encouragement, or a token of support can have. If you are unable to help, at the very least, leave people as they are; do not worsen their situation by adding to their pain.

To those carrying invisible burdens, know that you are not alone. You are stronger than the storms you face. Do not hesitate to seek help; there is no shame in admitting you need a shoulder to lean on. Remember that your story is still being written—do not end it before it has a chance to get better. There are those who genuinely care, those who would walk through the fire with you.

We may not always understand each other’s struggles, but we can always choose to be compassionate. Let’s build a world where empathy thrives, where we lift each other up instead of tearing each other down, and where our kindness extends to all, without conditions or expectations.

God bless us all. Let us be our brothers’ and sisters’ keeper.

©️James Ola Emiola-Dakobiri FIIM,
Founder and Chairman,
Suicide Prevention and Depression Support Foundation
✍🏽james@spdsfoundation.org
☎️773-344-6313.
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